Question: How can I be the perfect mother?
Answer: There is no such thing!
This is something I've learned throughout the past (almost) three years and it's something I need to remind myself constantly! Often we get so caught up with portraying this image of a perfect life, especially through social media. I think a lot of mothers are guilty of putting themselves down by comparing themselves to other women or trying to meet impossible expectations. When I see comments telling me I have the "perfect life" or that I'm a "perfect mum" it makes me feel uncomfortable because to be totally honest, 99.9% I haven't a clue what in the world I'm doing and don't feel like I have it together AT ALL!! Hopefully this video explains my feelings on the topic...it did turn into a bit of a ramble!
Everyone has their different opinions on how to parent which should be celebrated since nobody is perfect!
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I'm not a mom (yet) but I would like to be one day. I absolutely agree with you. I don't believe there is a "perfect" anything really. There is "perfect for YOU" but that doesn't mean it is perfect for someone else. I really enjoyed this video or 'talk' Anna, although I can't relate to kids I can relate to other things like having the house being "perfect". So thank you for that :)
ReplyDeleteAnd I think since my boyfriend passed away I see things differently. Like e.g. "being perfect". Life is just too short to try to be honest. Just be happy with what you've got and how things are. Of course it doesn't mean that you should slack and "live in a warzone" like you mentioned haha :D But what I mean is just... Yeah just let go of the pressure and try and accept how things are and be happy with it because life is so much shorter than it seems.
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Great post! I completely agree. Which is why I write a humor mom blog that lightly pokes fun of parenthood. I find it best to have a sense of humor about being a mom or else I'd spend half the time crying more than my toddler does!
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Thanks Anna.It helps a lot becauce I am preparing to be a mum but I am so afraid that I am not going to be enough.I am not a perfectionist but I guess when it comes to my baby I feel like it and this is so much pressure.You are right I need to relax and enjoy every second of being a mum.
ReplyDeleteVery well said! The strange competition that can happen between women is strange. But we're all in this together! I love your swarovski earrings and want to find that type for my wedding. Are they the 'typical' earrings or the 'angelic'? Are they rose gold. So so pretty and the perfect size.
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely video Anna, you are such a caring, genuine person!
ReplyDeleteYou are a great Mum Anna - as long as you are doing the best you can do, what more can anyone ask for! xx
ReplyDeleteI loved this Video! I'm only 20 and am not even thinking about having kids for atlas another 5 Years but if I do, I will watch this again! I think we do put too much pressure on ourselves, especially when it comes to parenting! You and Jonathan are brilliant parents! :) XX.
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Hei Anna I think you are Great mom! I have a daughter almost 8 years old and she thinks im perfect and best mother in the world so in the end its only thing that matters to me! Everybody is different and so are mothers.
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I love the whole message of this video - I'm about to enter the third trimester with my first child and have already had to deal with a bombardment of differing opinions on the way I should parent my daughter. I can only imagine how much more that will happen once she's here! Your comment about always wanting your house to look perfect is like me to a T and it's something I already know I'm going to have to work on with a little one around. You guys are doing great - keep it coming :)
ReplyDeleteahhh what a sweet video and cute subject! I am working with kids and I love working with them. I am not perfect at all and if I will be perfect, I guess that will waste half of my life on this perfection and will forget to enjoy all those important things. Thank you for this video and God bless you al! Liuba x
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great video. I think its definitely important for mums to have support. Specially first time mums.
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This is completely me! I am such a perfectionist and I need to tell myself thats its okay not to be okay sometimes! xx
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Couldn't agree more with this post. It's hard when you are the only one of your friends to have a little one, I know they mean well, but until they have a child of their own they don't know what it's like and it's hard to just make friends with other mums I find.
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I came across your blog when I was pregnant with my little girl and looking for what I need to take to the hospital when I'm in labor:) I instantly fell in love with your energy and fun little family and watch your videos all the time now! I completely agree with you about this as my girl is four months old and most of the time I have no idea what I'm doing! You've been an inspiration to me and seem like a great mom and example for others :)
ReplyDeleteI have to say that this is the first time I have been on this site even though I subscribed to your daily videos on YouTube ages ago. and i have never commented on anything before. so here goes (hopefully i don't screw it up...)
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing worse than people who judge you despite not knowing you. I know that I felt so overwhelmed and it took me time to understand how to be the best mum I can be. I sort of had a moment of clarity and realised on night breast feeding while looking down at my baby that 'hay you know what I might not be the best mum in the world but that isn't my goal. i am the best mum to MY baby' so what i do and how i love my kid is my prerogative and i own my ability. i say that a happy kids is a reflection of good parents and from the looks your kids are happy, so keep doing what you're doing. be you, that's all your kids ask for and anyone who wants to be a hater reflects more about themselves as a person than you.
Thanks for a great video, it made me smile.